From Michela for DivorcedMoms.
There is nothing so terrifying in a married woman's life than the threat of an unfaithful spouse. Well, most everything else we can handle; losing a job, losing a parent, the sickness of a child or relative. All of those things can be "fixed"; they have solutions that we can band together with our spouse to overcome. But an affair is the relationship equivalent of pouring Roundup on fresh, green grass; it kills everything around it. If you're unfortunate enough to be faced with this situation, there Wife cheating husband divorce things you should do We're going to get through this together.
Easier said than done. When my ex told me on New Year's Eve, of all times that he "thought" he was in love with someone else, my first thought was, "Oh snap, there's not enough alcohol in the house for this crisis.
And as tempting as those are: Instead, take a breath and repeat after me: This will not define me. And believe me, it won't. Don't start a mud-slinging campaign. It's so tempting to start calling every single friend you two have to dump on what your ex is doing to your life of bliss.
The danger in this is that -- by doing it -- you make yourself look really, really bad. Close friends and family that you KNOW is different, but beyond your small circle, resist the urge unless you want to come out looking like the "soon-to-be Wife cheating husband divorce ex". Oh, sure, it's all fun and games until you "accidentally" shatter the front to his commemorative window box with a football signed by what's-his-name. Any damage you do to the property in your home -- regardless of whether it's "yours" or "his" -- will have financial consequences for you later.
So put that Sharpie down and don't ask your bestie if three-four letter words need a hyphen or not. Don't involve the kids until you absolutely have to.
Your kids are the audience to this mess; they have front row tickets to the show and you don't want to give them any more fodder for their future therapists than you have to, so keep it between you and your ex until you absolutely must tell them what's going on. And only the bare facts, if possible.
Sorry, but a backhanded explanation of, "Sorry honey, daddy isn't here now because he's hanging out with his new friend with the fake breasts and letting mommy hold the bag of all our broken dreams" isn't going to win you any points in the long run. Keep it clean, ladies. Don't play "keeping up with the Joneses". Many of my girlfriends did this game and it never ended well.
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He gets a new car, you get a Mercedes. He got a girlfriend who is five years younger, you're dating someone ten years your junior. He takes the kids to the zoo, you fly them to Disneyland.
The kids don't understand what's going on, and even if they do, there are no winners and the ante will always go up until it gets really nasty and you're explaining to the judge why you bribed Cirque du Soleil performers to come to your five-year-old's birthday "bash". Don't be the victim. Very few things anger me more than the girl who plays the victim after she's been cheated on. What I'm referring to is the "Oh, I probably deserved it" mentality.
You did nothing to "deserve" this.
I don't care if you did everything in your marriage from burning his dinner to ogling the pool boy as he changed the filter. There is NO excuse for cheating. The minute you begin to feel as Wife cheating husband divorce "this is what you get" for marrying a man who's nickname in college was "hot dog," you're playing the victim.
Don't make it physical. No matter how much you desperately want and he likely deserves to have the crap beaten out of him, resist that urge.
Trust me when I say, even a good hard okay, partially satisfying slap on his face isn't going to feel as good as you think it will. This is the person who has betrayed you in the most basic sense of the word.