It can leave us not knowing how to make things better: Apart from leaving us feeling isolated, loneliness can also make us feel helpless.
It might mean you feel unheard or unloved. The reasons for feeling lonely can be really varied but one of the most common reasons is a change in your life that makes you feel differently about your relationship. This might be a new job that limits the amount of time you can spend together.
Or it could be a big change in your relationship status, like moving in together, getting married, having kids or your children moving away. Changes in your life situation often mean different or greater pressures, which can leave you feeling like you need more support.
Changes in our lives can also alter the role we want our relationship to play in our life: It can be easy to slip into negative communication habits — such as freezing each other out or jumping to make accusations — over time these can wear away at your relationship and make you feel less close to one another. When we feel betrayed, it can affect the relationship even more deeply than we might realise.
Often, it takes years to identify and work out the damage done when one partner badly lets down the other. This can take place outside of any external influence — and can leaving you feeling surprised or disenchanted when it does occur.
This tends to be the way someone might phrase things after a period of analysis or soul searching.
In reality, loneliness tends to express itself more indirectly. You might find yourself feeling more annoyed with your partner: You may act a little childishly, start avoiding your partner or give them the silent treatment.
You may become less sexual and feel less attracted to them. This kind of feeling is actually one of the most common reasons for affairs: But this is usually what it takes to begin to address any issues.